What the market values :

it is the ability to produce things that are rare and are valuable with deep concentrated work, and it required to build real skills and to apply those skills to produce things.

We have a growing amount of research which tells us that if you spend large portions of your day in a state of fragmented attention, large portion of your day breaking up your attention to take a quick glance to just check instagram, that is can permanently reduce your capacity for concentration. In other words you could permanently reduce your capacity to do exactly the type of deep effort that we are finding to be more and more necessary.

If you lose your ability to sustain concetration, you are going to become less and less relevant to this economy.

there is also psychological harms that are well documented, that socmed bring that we need to address :

  1. we know from the research, literature that more you use socmed the more liekly you are to feel lonely and isolated
  2. We know that the constant exposure to your friends carefully created positive portyals if their life can leave you to feel inaduquate and can increase rates of deppression.
  3. If you treat your attention with respect so you dont fragment it, you allow it stay whole… You perserve your concentration when it comes time to work you can do one thing after another and do it with intensity and intensity can be trated for time.

NONSENSE : it is a slot machine in your phone.

“If you don’t produce, you won’t thrive—no matter how skilled or talented you are.” 
― Cal NewportDeep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

“Two Core Abilities for Thriving in the New Economy

1. The ability to quickly master hard things.

2. The ability to produce at an elite level, in terms of both quality and speed.” 
― Cal NewportDeep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

“(As Nietzsche said: “It is only ideas gained from walking that have any worth.”)” 
― Cal NewportDeep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World



Psychological Health – Emotional Hygiene (Guy Winch)


What if you jsut allow the monster to be to occupy a space in your body.

Loneliness creates a deep psychological wound, one that distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking. It makes us believe that those around us care much less than they actually do. It make us really afraid to reach out, because why set yourself up for rejection and heartache when your heart is already aching more than you can stand? I was in the grips of real loneliness back then, but I was surrounded by people all day, so it never occurred to me. 

But loneliness is defined purely subjectively. It depends solely on whether you feel emotionally or socially disconnected from those around you. And I did. There is a lot of research on loneliness, and all of it is horrifying. Loneliness won’t just make you miserable; it will kill you. I’m not kidding. 

Chronic loneliness increases your likelihood of an early death by 14 percent. Fourteen percent! Loneliness causes high blood pressure,high cholesterol. It even suppress the functioning of your immune system, making you vulnerable to all kinds of illnesses and diseases. In fact, scientists have concluded that taken together, chronic loneliness poses as significant a risk for your long-term health and longevity as cigarette smoking.Now, cigarette packs come with warnings saying, “This could kill you.” 

But loneliness doesn’t. And that’s why it’s so important that we prioritize our psychological health, that we practice emotional hygiene. Because you can’t treat a psychological wound if you don’t even know you’re injured. Loneliness isn’t the only psychological wound that distorts our perceptions and misleads us.

Failure does that as well. I once visited a day care center, where I saw three toddlers play with identical plastic toys. You had to slide the red button, and a cute doggie would pop out. One little girl tried pulling the purple button, then pushing it, and then she just sat back and looked at the box with her lower lip trembling. The little boy next to her watched this happen, then turned to his box and burst into tears without even touching it. 

Meanwhile, another little girl tried everything she could think of until she slid the red button, the cute doggie popped out, and she squealed with delight. So: three toddlers with identical plastic toys, but with very different reactions to failure. The first two toddlers were perfectly capable of sliding a red button. The only thing that prevented them from succeeding was that their mind tricked them into believing they could not. Now, adults get tricked this way as well, all the time. In fact, we all have a default set of feelings and beliefs that gets triggered whenever we encounter frustrations and setbacks.

Are you aware of how your mind reacts to failure? You need to be. Because if your mind tries to convince you you’re incapable of something, and you believe it, then like those two toddlers, you’ll begin to feel helpless and you’ll stop trying too soon, or you won’t even try at all. And then you’ll be even more convinced you can’t succeed. You see, that’s why so many people function below their actual potential. Because somewhere along the way, sometimes a single failure convinced them that they couldn’t succeed, and they believed it.

Our mind is hard to change once we become convinced. So it might be very natural to feel demoralized and defeated after you fail. But you cannot allow yourself to become convinced you can’t succeed. You have to fight feelings of helplessness. You have to gain control over the situation.And you have to break this kind of negative cycle before it begins.

Our minds and our feelings — they’re not the trustworthy friends we thought they were. They’re more like a really moody friend, who can be totally supportive one minute, and really unpleasant the next. 

I once worked with this woman who, after 20 years marriage and an extremely ugly divorce, was finally ready for her first date. She had met this guy online, and he seemed nice and he seemed successful,and most importantly, he seemed really into her. So she was very excited, she bought a new dress,and they met at an upscale New York City bar for a drink. Ten minutes into the date, the man stands up and says, “I’m not interested,” and walks out. Rejection is extremely painful. 

The woman was so hurt she couldn’t move. All she could do was call a friend. Here’s what the friend said: “Well, what do you expect? You have big hips, you have nothing interesting to say. Why would a handsome, successful man like that ever go out with a loser like you?” 

Shocking, right, that a friend could be so cruel? But it would be much less shocking if I told you it wasn’t the friend who said that. It’s what the woman said to herself. And that’s something we all do, especially after a rejection. 

We all start thinking of all our faults and all our shortcomings, what we wish we were, what we wish we weren’t. We call ourselves names. Maybe not as harshly, but we all do it. And it’s interesting that we do, because our self-esteem is already hurting. Why would we want to go and damage it even further?

We wouldn’t make a physical injury worse on purpose. You wouldn’t get a cut on your arm and decide, “Oh! I know — I’m going to take a knife and see how much deeper I can make it.”

But we do that with psychological injuries all the time. Why? Because of poor emotional hygiene. Because we don’t prioritize our psychological health. We know from dozens of studies that when your self-esteem is lower, you are more vulnerable to stress and to anxiety; that failures and rejections hurt more, and it takes longer to recover from them. So when you get rejected, the first thing you should be doing is to revive your self-esteem, not join Fight Club and beat it into a pulp. When you’re in emotional pain, treat yourself with the same compassion you would expect from a truly good friend.

We have to catch our unhealthy psychological habits and change them. And one of unhealthiest and most common is called rumination. To ruminate means to chew over. It’s when your boss yells at youor your professor makes you feel stupid in class, or you have big fight with a friend and you just can’t stop replaying the scene in your head for days, sometimes for weeks on end. Now, ruminating about upsetting events in this way can easily become a habit, and it’s a very costly one, because by spending so much time focused on upsetting and negative thoughts, you are actually putting yourself at significant risk for developing clinical depression, alcoholism, eating disorders, and even cardiovascular disease.

By taking action when you’re lonely, by changing your responses to failure, by protecting your self-esteem, by battling negative thinking, you won’t just heal your psychological wounds, you will build emotional resilience, you will thrive. A hundred years ago, people began practicing personal hygiene,and life expectancy rates rose by over 50 percent in just a matter of decades. I believe our quality of life could rise just as dramatically if we all began practicing emotional hygiene.

Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was psychologically healthier? If there were less loneliness and less depression? If people knew how to overcome failure? If they felt better about themselves and more empowered? If they were happier and more fulfilled? I can, because that’s the world I want to live in. And that’s the world my brother wants to live in as well. And if you just become informed and change a few simple habits, well — that’s the world we can all live in.



Passion and perseverance (cuma ini yang gw punya kalau gw ga punya IQ dan kecerdasan sosial) untuk waktu yang sangat lama (for long term goals).

Grit butuh stamina

Grit melekat dalam diri, setiap waktu tuk masa depan gw, dalam setiap hari, bukan hanya untuk seminggu, bukan hanya untuk 1 bulan, tapi untuk bertahun-tahun.

Working really-really hard, to make that future reality.

Grit like living a life, (like living marathon) bukan jarak jauh.

Bakat gak membuat elu memiliki tekad.

Kegagalan bukanlah permanent condition.

Apa yang elu value dari diri elu sendiri, work hard, my work (personal core) – work environtment.

Find the companies (who have work environtment) who valued those abilities and your qualities. Abilities and qualities are valued and valuable.

“Did I win? Did I lose? Those are the wrong questions. The correct question is: Did I make my best effort?” If so, he says, “You may be outscored but you will never lose.” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology of Success

“no matter what your ability is, effort is what ignites that ability and turns it into accomplishment.” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology Of Success

“So what should we say when children complete a task—say, math problems—quickly and perfectly? Should we deny them the praise they have earned? Yes. When this happens, I say, “Whoops. I guess that was too easy. I apologize for wasting your time. Let’s do something you can really learn from!” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology of Success

“Picture your brain forming new connections as you meet the challenge and learn. Keep on going.” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology of Success

“…when people already know they’re deficient, they have nothing to lose by trying.” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology of Success

“Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when it’s not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology Of Success

“Don’t judge. Teach. It’s a learning process.” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology Of Success

“Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better?” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology Of Success

“effort is what ignites that ability and turns it into accomplishment.” 
― Carol S. DweckMindset: The New Psychology Of Success

Find the place where you are valued.

Writing your name in the right places.