VENT #3

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My thirst was not quenched. I was dissatisfied. Not your body. All I needed was your love.

The hardest part about leaving toxic people is that you know when you leave, they won’t chase after you. They won’t be begging on their hands and knees for you like you would have done for them. They’ll just let you walk away, never even look at you in their rearview mirror, and move on like nothing has changed. It’s terrifying because you finally have to come to the cold hard realization that they never cared if you stayed.

Fuck, why she pricks like the thorns of a rose, but is as sweet as the aroma of its petals.

For me.. Its okay virtually, we can arrange time to meet. Cause for me I’m not dwell into the plessures of the body but sleep in the joys of the mind first. As long as I feel connection through our heavy conversation and having some of potential mate requirements.

We’re all just running. Some of us run towards hope, love or even the idea of it. Some of us are running away… from our past, our present and our future.

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.

These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.

Beautiful people do not just happen.

(Elisabeth Kubler Ross)

Love is like giving someone a gun and hoping they won’t shoot you and then they do… the truth, everyone gonna do it, they all gonna pull the trigger and you’re the one to blame.

But you know what’s the fun part? You heal, with some time, tears, alcohol and you go right back to them

Everybody says destroy what destroys you. — But what if the thing destroying you is yourself?

The Society raises women to be insecure, depressed and anxious about what others think about them. This is exactly what’s wrong with our society. We Are treated like an object.

I think What we shud learning is how to have more respect for ourselves and be happy with ourselves, because you’re not an object! You’re woman, you’re a person and you’re beautiful.

Elu tahu ga van gogh bilang apa d akhir hidupnya : No-one has ever properly understood me, I have never fully understood anyone; and no-one understands anyone else

Why would we ever repeat something that was deeply uncomfortable? even though it was horrible, it was still a love relationship.

There was abuse but also, lets imagine a degree of familiarity, admiration, attachment and even tenderness just like what hakmer said. they may have been belittling but it is what we got used to. it is not nice as such but it feels comfortingly, compellingly familiar.

We end up feeling hurt in love > we end up causing hurt in love. We may end up doing the same thing to someone else, humiliating them in turn bossing them about, going cold on them, just when they are vulnerable to us. it is a primitive part of us thinks that the only way not to be abused it to be the abuser.

The investigation always start by tryn to understand ourselves, what did i suffer from the and of my early caregivers? emotional health means ecpanding on the number of people that we are free to fall in love with, and get used to something which might be eerily and challengingly, unfamiliar at firstly. being happy with someone who is properly and deeply good for us.

Isn’t it ironic, how diplomatic are we, we ignore those who adore us, adore those who ignore us, hurt those who love us, and love those who hurt us.

 

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• Central For Inquiry (CFI) • Skeptical Inquirer • Free Inquiry • Point of Inquiry ------------------------------------------------------------ 1. Yang nyata ialah manusia itu sendiri bukan tuhan, bukan manusia pikiran tuhan, tetapi tuhan adalah pikiran manusia, agama tidak merubah kenyataan dan mengukir sejarah, tetapi manusia itu sendiri yang merubah dan mengukirnya. Bukan tuhan yang menciptakan manusia tetapi tuhan adalah angan-angan manusia. Agama tidak merubah kenyataan tetapi menusia bisa merubah kenyataan. 2. Agama ialah proyeksi manusia : tuhan, neraka, surga, malaikat. Kenapa? Karena manusia butuh tempat untuk mencurahkan keluhan karena dunia tanpa hati, jadi penderitaan tempat lahirnya tuhan. Dengan demikian agama disebut keterasingan manusia dari kehidupan karena struktur masyarakat tidak mengizinkan secara penuh perealisasian diri sendiri, sehingga manusia membangun kerajaan angan-angan (agama). Dalam kenyataan manusia menderita lalu ia mengharapkan surga 3. kenapa agama khayalan, karena agama tidak inderawi, sedangkan manusia inderawi, manusia penuh dengan kepastian sedangkan agama berbau unsur spekulatif, unsur yang tidak bisa diterima secara ilmiah 4. Jadi agama dan tuhan ialah ciptaan manusia itu sendiri, tetapi manusia itu sendiri lupa dengan ciptaanya (seperti pada zaman jahiliyah dahulu sebelum nabi muhamad dating : orang-orang kafir zaman dahulu mengukir tuhan dari kayu dan batu, yang kemudian disembahnya, sama seperti kita kini yang memproyeksikan tuhan lalu menyembahnya). Agama penyembahan tuhan terhadap dirinya sendiri. Agama penyembahan manusia terhadap ciptaanya sendiri 5. Sehingga khayalan atau angan-angan itu mempunyai eksistensi realitas yang membuat manusia takut dan harus menyembahnya dan tuhan mempunyai hakikat lain yang manusia harus sembah. Sifat-sifat itu yang membuat manusia egois. 6. Penderitaan manusia ialah tempat lahirnya tuhan, penderitaan yang memaksa manusia mengasingkan diri ke dalam agama, itulah dasar yang menyebabkan manusia merasa butuh agama dan tuhan 7. Teologi harus diganti menjadi antropologi dan agama ialah candu rakyat. 8. Kritik agama hanya meruska bunga khayalan pada rantai, bukan bunganya yang harus dipatahkan tetapi rantai itu sendiri. Rantai (factor yang menyebabkan manusia mengasingkan diri ke dalam agama) 9. Kita seperti wayang dengan penuh kesadaran dan kemauan tetapi kita tidak bisa lepas dari tangan sang dalang. 10. Kalau semua ini benar, maka manusia bukan merealisasikan keinginanya tetapi mengharapkan berkah dariNYA (proyeksi manusia itu sendiri/perubahan pasif) 11. agama ialah keterbatasan: agama melarang kita bergaul dengan duniawi, sehingga kita hanya memikirkan surgawi Tanpa agama kita bisa hidup lebih baik, tanpa mengaharapkan hibah/welas asih dariNYA, hanya mengandalkan kenyataan dan diri sendiri. 12. Kepasrahan adalah kelemahan agama 13. Tuhan seperti halnya dengan setan, bila ia terus diyakini dengan adanya exsistensinya maka semakin berkuasalah ia, kita seperti member roh kepadanya dengan keyakinan kita. GROUP : https://www.facebook.com/groups/scientistsecularist