SUMMER REVIEW

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Romance just isn’t for everyone sorry go home and feel bad about it …? You’ll be alone forever since all romance ends in tragedy anyways.

The doomed relationship, on the other hand, represents a different type of goal that the characters are trying to attain.

A goal they didn’t even know they were headed for. Perhaps not the goal they would have wanted but the one they needed. A lesson in which the trials of romance provide the necessary conflict for an important internal discovery… their own personal growth.

Now when we’re talking about a doomed romance were making a distinction between tragic romance, where two people love each other but don’t end up together because of external forces a la Romeo & Juliet (family strife) or The Titanic (an iceberg).

Instead these are internal decisions by the characters that ultimately doom their relationships. The kind of relationships we can find in the following movie.

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– Wait, wait, wait… what happens if you fall in love (she laughs) …. What?

– You don’t believe that do you?

– It’s love not Santa Claus.

Here we have Tom and Summer presenting their mismatched points of view. Tom is a romantic he believes in love, he believes in fate destiny and the notion of the one.

Summer on the other hand is the embodied rebuttal to his rosy take on love, she even starts challenging his ideals.

– Well what does that word even mean?

I’ve been in relationships and I don’t think I’ve ever seen it

– Well maybe– – And most marriages end in divorce these

days like my parents – Okay mine too but–

For Summer, relationships all share the same fleeting qualities None of them ever last, feelings change emotions get hurt and things get messy. For her, relationships have up until now mainly been flings (as her name denotes). So why go through all of that trouble or heartache when you can enjoy being single and work on yourself as an individual.

His world collapsed on itself and he was left alone standing in the wreckage.

– There’s no such thing as love its fantasy – Well I think you’re wrong

– Okay well…what is it that I’m missing then?

– I think you know when you feel it…

– I guess we can just agree to disagree

Clearly Tom and Summer are two very distinct people. They view the world differently and consequently feel differently about it.

But even after challenging one of his core beliefs they start a casual relationship together. In doing so she starts testing the other aspects of his life like his taste in music or his offhanded judgmental observations all the while letting her general outgoing disposition naturally push his boundaries and ultimately challenging the way he views himself.

– Are you her boyfriend?

– It’s not that simple – Sure, it is.

– What like “are we going steady”?

Common guys. We’re adults, we know how we feel. We don’t need to put labels on it I mean…boyfriend, girlfriend… all that stuff is…it’s really juvenile.

Leaving without being followed.  The encapsulation of how sometimes we can create a beautiful false expectation that  reality fails to live up to.

The place where we can ask why?

The place where we can question the person, we felt emotionally wronged us.

We end where we began.

This was the girl he felt he was in love with and now he looks for answers.

– You never wanted to be anyone’s girlfriend and now you’re somebody’s wife.

– It surprised me too.

– I don’t think I will EVER understand that. I mean it doesn’t make sense

– It just happened.

– Right, but that’s what I don’t understand what just happened?

– I just…I just woke up one day and I knew.

– Knew what?

– What I was never sure of with you.

This story isn’t about the one, but the one you learn from. The one that teaches you something, something important about yourself whether you like it or not.

What things you need to leave behind or improve on and what things are actually important to you to keep moving forward.

What to look for, for the next time because there will be a next time. The one that offers growth from a painful learning experience in the process of adulthood.

– You know what sucks…realizing that everything you believe in is complete and utter bullshit… Sucks

– What do you mean?

– Ah you know destiny and soulmates… true love and all that childhood fairytale… nonsense…You were right… I should have listened to you. Yeah what are you smiling at?

– Tom…

– What?

What are you looking at me like that for? But growth in this case is a two-way street…

– It was…It was meant to be, and I just kept thinking Tom was right.

– (laughs) No – Yeah, I did (laughs) I did…It just wasn’t me that you were right about…

He was looking for the one but instead he found someone.

How many of us have had that dream. The dream that feels so real. The dream where we gaze upon an angel for what seems like the first time and you fallow not in her shadow but in her mysterious light and you end up chasing her through what seems like every nostalgic feeling that youve ever felt longing for her to show her true self to you and that maybe, just maybe she would turn around and actually notice you… Then you wake up… Realizing it was a dream and that you may never see her again…

All romances are doomed. Just enjoy them while it lasts.

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